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I’ve read Em’s response. I understand where you’re coming from in how it is difficult in terms of figuring out how to recieve that kind of comment. I think the way to tell the difference between it being complimentary versus accusatory is based on tone and delivery. If they are saying “You look like you’re good in bed, like you have a lot of experience.” that would be more along the lines of them making it known that in their opinion you look promiscuous. Rather than “You look like you’re good in bed, and I’d really like to find out just how good.” which is more of a very forward compliment. This is hard to explain in writing, it’s difficult to convey tone. The best way to follow up and find out what they mean by it/their intentions is by responding “What do you mean by that?”
Hopefully they will be willing to clarify and then you’ll have a better idea on their stance.
Often times (as Em was trying to explain) based upon a person’s presence, especially confident people, other’s then interpret it as & make the assumption that a person is confident in all aspects of life. One of those aspects being sexual relationships. That this person must not have any fear in the bedroom. That they are self assured they are “good in bed” and can deliver a satisfying amount of pleasure no matter who their partner is.
Does that make more sense?
I think no matter what, if someone says that to you, you should follow up with the question I mentioned above asking them to further explain themselves. If they choose not to, you can say that you would appreciate if they exercised some discretion and respected that your sex life is your own business and none of their’s….as of yet.
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Dear Devout Christian,
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